Beware of the Third Party – The Real Kaam Bigaaru

Beware of the Third Party – The Real Kaam Bigaaru

We often hear the term “third party” in the context of banking, insurance, or technical services. But that’s not what I’m referring to here. I'm talking about the third party that silently damages relationships—especially when it comes to love and personal bonds.

In Hindi, I like to describe such people with a simple, accurate term: “Kaam Bigaaru”—someone who disrupts or spoils things.

Why Do I Call Them Kaam Bigaaru?

Because that's exactly what they do—disturb your peace, break your trust, and complicate your life. You can probably find examples of such people in your surroundings or even your friend circle.

Let me share a real-life example.

Back in my 2nd semester, I met someone named Mr. Saurav, who later became my roommate. One day, he told me something that has stayed with me ever since:

“A third party will always affect your relationship—once you let them in.”

And he was absolutely right.

Real Example: The Apartment Couple

At that time, we were staying in a rented apartment. There was a couple living in the same building—they seemed to be in a happy relationship. About a month later, the girl’s two female friends moved to the city in search of jobs. Naturally, they stayed with her for a while.

Eventually, she introduced both of her friends to her boyfriend. Everything seemed normal at first. But as days passed, the boyfriend started spending more time with those two girls. He gradually got emotionally closer to one of them.

And then, as you might guess—he broke up with his girlfriend.
A few weeks later, he started dating one of her friends. They went from being friends to best friends, and eventually, boyfriend and girlfriend.

A Similar Story: My Friend Avinash

I saw the same thing happen to my best friend, Avinash. But this time, it was the other way around. In the earlier story, a girl introduced her friends to her boyfriend. In Avinash’s case, he introduced his girlfriend to one of his male friends. And the result? The same.

Over time, his friend became too close to his girlfriend. This led to misunderstandings, mistrust, and finally, a breakup.

So What’s the Lesson?

If you're ever planning to introduce someone—be it a friend—to your family, your partner, or someone close to your heart, be cautious.

Ask yourself:

• Is this person truly trustworthy?

• Is he/she polite and mature-minded—or double-faced and opportunistic?

If your gut says no, then maintain some distance.
Because not everyone you call a friend truly deserves that place in your life.

Thanks for reading!
Please leave your thoughts or share your own experience with a “third party” situation in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you.

Stay aware, and take care!

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